Being an atheist is ok. Being an atheist and shaming religion and spirituality as silly or not real is not ok.
Being a Christian is ok. Being a homophobic, misogynistic, racist, or otherwise hateful person in the name of Christianity is not ok. Being a reindeer is ok. Bullying and excluding another reindeer because he has a shiny red nose is not ok.
do you ever just listen to someone’s problem and you have nothing to say except “I’m sorry” because there is literally no way for you to help and you get sucked into a vortex of guilt and despair because you are useless